People often feel alone when they advocate for a Gifted and Talented Child. 
You're not alone... a humorous take on your problems.
http://www.hoagiesgifted.org/ridiculous_things.htm

The National Research Center on the Gifted and Talented (a great site)
http://www.gifted.uconn.edu/NRCGT.html

From Parents to Parents--Unofficial Advice (with many links)
http://hoagiesgifted.org/unofficial_guide.htm

Standards of the National Association for Gifted Children.
http://www.nagc.org/uploadedFiles/PDF/Standards_PDFs/k12%20GT%20standards%20brochure.pdf
(The NAGC standards establish requisite and exemplary Gifted program standards.  What the New Jersey school district "shall take into consideration" as stated by the NJDOE, below.)

The National Association for Gifted Children Website
http://www.nagc.org

Good Analysis of Legal Rights
http://www.hoagiesgifted.org/eric/e541.html

What the U.S. Government has to say (However, the person you talk to in your state office may be unable to provide too many suggestions at the present time because the President completely stripped funding for the Javits Program in his 2008 Budget.)
http://www.ed.gov/programs/javits/legislation.html

Resources and Contacts at the New Jersey Parents Interactive Network for Gifted Education
http://www.njping.org

Rights and Other Helpful Information Through the New Jersey Association for Gifted Children
http://www.njagc.org/index.php?module=Pagesetter&func=viewpub&tid=6&pid=6

The New Jersey Commission on G & T Standards 2005 Findings and Recommendations
http://www.state.nj.us/njded/educators/commission/gifted.pdf

New Jersey DOE Resources
http://www.state.nj.us/education/njpep/classroom/classroom_resources/gt_educators.html

New York State Education Department Gifted and Talented Information
www.emsc.nysed.gov/ciai/gt.html